What are the signs of low Self Esteem & Lack of Confidence?
- Unable to Accept a Compliment, A person with a healthy level of confidence will accept a compliment and reply with a simple thank you. But, someone who does not believe in themselves will make excuses for why it isn’t true. They will unconsciously reject the positive view of themselves from a another person in favor of the false notion that they are not worthy of such a compliment. They may even become flustered by the uncommon attention and become visibly uncomfortable. If you want to raise someone’s confidence level, then keep complimenting them on a regular basis. Don’t argue with them when they reject it, but just keep building them up on a regular basis.
- Apologizing for No Reason. People who have a low confidence level will also apologize when they have done nothing wrong. They apologize for other people’s behavior. They apologize that they did not arrive earlier even though they are already early. They will hand in a project and apologize for its quality before you have even had a chance to look at it. They are staving off the perceived future criticism they just know is coming with a preemptive apology. They are trying to prevent future criticism by criticizing themselves first before you have a chance to do it.
- Indecisiveness About Life. Someone who lacks self-confidence will be unable to make a decision. Simple decisions like where to eat will be difficult because they are riddled with self-doubt. What if they choose wrong? They just know that if they make the wrong decision they will be criticized, so they avoid that unvoiced criticism by not making a decision to begin with or passing the responsibility to someone else. They do not believe they are capable of making the right choice and lack the faith in their own abilities to weigh the pros and cons objectively. It is much easier to just let other people choose so that they can take the heat if it turns out to be the wrong choice.